I was reading a really inspirational Living With Kids Tour on Design Mom a few weeks ago.
The house was so incredible and then to read about the family living in it, well, it was really a treat.
They have busy hectic lives. 4 kids. A mom with a busy career. A dad fighting cancer.
The part I loved most was when Lynne (the mom) talked about how the kids are coping with their father’s illness….How their dad is teaching them to cope with his illness and all difficult situations in life.
“Michael has a super cool way of doing things to get through conflict and hard times. I learned a lot from it, and it has been one of my favorite things to do. Whenever we have a problem, we just LOVE THEM. Same goes with friends, family, and other people in our life. It sounds so very simple, doesn’t it? But it works.”
Isn’t that incredible? When you have a problem, just LOVE it.
It reminds me of my favorite part of the movie Eat Pray Love (and yes, I did read the book but this part wasn’t in it!).
It’s the part when Elizabeth is at the ashram in India and she’s alone on a rooftop and she’s finally ready to deal with the hurt she caused in her divorce. And in her mind she’s dancing with her husband at their wedding and he says (I’m paraphrasing here) “I miss you” and Elizabeth says…“so miss me” and then he talks about how sad he is that their marriage fell apart and she says “so be sad”.
I’m not sure why but it felt like this revolutionary idea. That something could be sad, or stressful and difficult without being terrible or the end of the world.
That we could feel these feelings for what they are without attaching extra meaning.
That we could possibly even learn to love the hard parts. The hard people. The hard circumstances….
Until they’re not really that hard anymore.
How do you deal with difficult circumstances?